The leaves have started to turn, Halloween is just around the corner, and it won’t be long until the clocks go back. Autumn is upon us and if you don’t already have the perfect partner to snuggle up with through those long, dark, cold nights, then no doubt, if you’re currently single, you’re on the hunt. Last year #RelationshipGoals were ‘Netflix and chill’, but dating in 2017 is all about ‘Cuffing Season’. Don’t know what that is? Well don’t panic.
For those who haven’t dated in a while – particularly if you’re parents who are newly single, and have been out of the game for some time – a whole new raft of dating buzzwords have sprung up that might be worth familiarising yourself with just in time for ‘cuffing season’ (that’s the chilly time of year from October to February when being attached to someone and just staying in with them is just so much more appealing than going out).
And even if you’re young and single, the rate at which hipster phrases evolve is so speedy, you might have missed out on some of the newest ones.
Aptly, leading wood burning stove experts Glowing Embers have compiled a handy guide to the latest dating buzzwords for autumn, so that hopefully you’ll be able to navigate your way through the dating minefield and be snuggled up in front of a wood burning stove with that special someone before you know it.
As in, ‘Stop being so amatonormative!’ This is the assumption that all singletons want to be in a monogamous relationship – and that they would be better off in one. Some of us don’t; but when it’s cold outside, we can see the appeal…
This is the situation where there’s a lot of communication via text – but never any in-person interaction. They seem very complimentary, tempting you with crumbs of attention, but plans just never get made.
Agreeing to a date, then rescheduling – probably on more than one occasion. Let’s face it, they’re probably keeping their options open in case they get a better offer, and are dating more than one person at a time.
This is the time of year when ‘Netflix and chill’ comes into play. It’s that cold period between October and February when staying in is more appealing than going out.
A sexual orientation for those who just take a bit longer to feel attracted to someone – it’s like taking a while to warm up.
This can happen when you’ve met up a few times, or if things get serious. Ghosting is when a person cuts off all communication, thus ending the relationship but without spelling it out. ‘He totally ghosted me!!’
Used to describe the over-the-top hype of marriage and coupling – ‘I just can’t deal with the matrimania of wedding season’.
On a thing
‘We’re seeing each other’ is so old school; ‘on a thing’ is the casual dating term for 2017.
This is where people dress up for social media platforms like Instagram or even IRL (in real life) to attract a mate.
When the person you like reads your messages – but doesn’t actually respond. It’s disheartening to see that double tick on WhatsApp, then never see those three little dots that signify they’re typing back…
A sapiosexual is a person who finds someone’s intellect to be the sexiest thing about another person. Much less messy than dealing with the physical stuff.
This is where someone gradually backs away, but doesn’t just cut all ties like ghosting.
Sliding into his/her DMs
When someone tries to flirt across social media platforms like Twitter by sending a direct message (DM).
When someone has already ghosted his or her way out of a relationship – then tries to come back. An example of this happening to you would be for an ex who mysteriously vanished to then suddenly like a picture on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter.